I think it has been all summed up nicely by the previous posters, please don't let your life be affected (in a negative way!) by people who don't know anything and aren't worth to be taken seriously.
even though it is probably impossible for me to fully emphasise and understand the situation you and Devin are in, but I do know one thing: being attacked or accused untruthfully hurts. no one wants to be accused of things he isn't guilty of. and the more you try to explain yourself to the whole world, the more it hurts, because the time and energy invested into explaining doesn't seem to return at all. it goes all to waste, because people just won't listen. they don't want to and any facts or explanations don't mean anything for them. there was a time, where I could get pretty upset about people like that, but in the end I realised one thing:
People who show no interest in what I say, aren't worth for me to be talked to.
I have no intention of telling anyone what to do whatsoever, those are just my thoughts on this subject, because I too have been confronted with situations, where people kept talking shit about me, even though they didn't know anything.
I like to think of those people as of little dwarves feeding on your attention. they literally need the attention of someone to satisfy their needs, so they come to you begging for it in all kinds of forms, annoying you being the most popular, because when people get upset, they are most likely to react in some way. I choose not to do that. Everytime you give a damn about those little creatures, they win. please don't let them win, because they are simply not worthy of winning their wicked little fights.
whatever you do, please consider those things, that matter the most first - yourself, your baby, your husband, your life. those are the most important things in your life and there's nothing in the whole world, which would be worth sacrificing those things for. So whatever you'll have to do to be happy, please do it, I'm sure that people here will understand and respect it, for the thought, that the people, that have given us so much happyness, are happy themselves, will be all we need, to be happy ourselves
I beg pardon of anyone who might be offended by anything I said, I don't mean no harm to anyone. I just wanted to express my thoughts on this subject, because it's one that's very close to me.
peace!
